Apr 11

Do not Judge. The truth might surprise you. #AtoZChallenge 2015 @AprilA2Z

‘J is for Judgement | Positive & Inspired Living A to Z’


Mother Teresa once said, “If you judge people, you have no time to love them”. We all must have heard this saying several times, but putting it to practice is, well,  another thing all-together.

Today, I am sharing one of my favorite stories on judgement. Do read it all the way through and share it with the ones you love. It makes a compelling case against judging people without knowing them.

The 24 year old boy – Anonymous

A few years ago, a 24 year old boy seeing out from the train’s window shouted… “Dad, look the trees are going behind us!”

As his Dad smiled,  a young couple sitting nearby, looked at the 24 year old’s childish behavior with pity, when suddenly he again exclaimed… “Dad, look the clouds are running with us!”

The couple couldn’t resist and said to the old man… “Why don’t you take your son to see a good doctor?”

The old man smiled and said… “I did and we are just coming from the hospital. My son was blind from birth and he just got his eyesight today.”

*Don’t judge people before you truly know them. The truth might surprise you.*

None of us can claim to be totally non-judgmental beings (not me for sure). We all have our prejudices and pre-conceived notions. However, we can try to not let our biases control our words and our actions. Don’t you think?

Lots of Love


This post is written for the AtoZChallenge2015.



  1. Perfect example of things not being what they seem. I do my best not to be judgemental and would certainly never comment as those people did to the father. It’s none of their business! This struck a nerve, as it’s a major pet peeve.
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  2. Well said Shantala. We must always believe in the notion that we do not have the full story behind each person’s behaviour. Difficult to do at times, especially when you are at the receiving end of the criticism. But if you can, then more power to you.
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  3. Awesome post! Though I have read that little story before, one can’t read it enough. And I love those quotes by Anonymous each day 😉

  4. It’s wise never to judge, yet as you say it is a natural tendency in us humans. However, I do my best to be open and flexible so I can adapt accordingly when need be. 😉 <3
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  5. Shanaya, that was an amazing read. LOVED it!!!! Something that I hate the most is people judging other people. Makes me mad. The story of the boy in the train… so great… Could picture the faces of those people when the dad gave them his reply. Beautiful post today, thanks:-)
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  6. Hi,

    Many a times being judgmental about someone due to preconceived notions gives false impression of the person. Creates a barrier, many times difficult to break.
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  7. That was so true, Shantala! I loved this story – have read it earlier – and it is a perfect example of how we as human beings are. Always ready to jump to conclusions about people we know not. It is something I have learnt the hard way: never to judge a person, unless I have walked in his shoes for a mile. It is something I learnt by being at the receiving end of some bitter judgemental remarks by people who knew nothing about me, or my family. It is something, I always do my best to remember when meeting a person for the first time, or thinking about people I don’t know. Great poet, Shantala.
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  8. None of us are completely non judgemental.. well said Shanaya.. 🙂

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  9. Agree with you, Shantala. I try not to judge however it is a difficult task, as you said we all have preconceived notions and prejudices. I am doing my best to bypass those prejudices now. 🙂
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  10. Prasanna says:

    I just came here from Parul’s blog and you guys have written awesome posts on not being judgmental. I consciously avoid judging people because everyone here is trying to survive, fighting their own battles. Why be unnecessary harsh on them? Loved the story too 🙂 Great post Shantala 🙂

  11. Your story is perfect to demonstrate that we should not judge without knowing the facts. Excellent post.
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  12. Wow! Our choice of topics is the same and the quotes too 🙂 Great minds think alike!! 🙂
    I loved that story and it speaks volumes about how we quickly judge and derive a conclusion. Great post!!
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  13. A beautiful post:) I hate people who are quick to judge others. We should realize that it is non of our business what others do..Live and let live should be our mantra.

  14. Beautiful. Your piece of flash reads like an Aesop fable.

  15. Yes. Even I don’t think I am completely non judgmental. But I do hope that people think before they blurt out their judgment.
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  16. that’s a beautiful message … I absolutely loved the quote by Mother Teresa.
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  17. What a wonderful story. And people are so judgmental and so quickly. I learned as a teacher not to trust first judgments. They’re seldom right.

  18. So true Shantala. We often judge people on the whim of the moment not knowing them or their story. If only we knew them, our opinion will be so much different! Lovely post 🙂
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  19. Great story which gives a lot to think and ponder on. It is so easy to be judgmental. We are experts at forming opinions about the book just by looking at the cover and we are usually so wrong when we do just that!
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  20. I love that story Shantala. Being non-judgmental is one of the many things I learnt after motherhood. It kind of puts things in perspective.
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  21. Lovely post, I am just catching up with posts now as I had a busy week. I also wrote about judgement, so we are on a similar wavelength. I love the story, I had a friend at college called Neil he was a big fella, he had tattoos everywhere, a huge spider-web on his face, barbed wire tattoo around his neck and if you saw him coming down a dark alley you may walk the other way, but he was the softest loveliest man ever. I try not to judge a book by its cover, sometimes preconceived notions have me judge though and I am pleased when I am incorrect.
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  22. That’s an awesome story!
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  23. True Shanaya 🙂 And I love this example always.. Also, we can try not to be biased. yes! A good post here Shanaya 🙂
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  24. So very true. It’s hard to BE non-judgemental and we are subconsciously doing it all the time. Judging people for how they look, how they talk and so on. Your example is a good one.
    Never JUDGE a book by it’s cover, is something to remember.
    Shalijay …….A-Z challenge…..J IS FOR JOBLESS WIFE SYNDROME.

  25. It’s amazing how even I thought J stood for Judgemental. I loved your story.

  26. Such a moving tale…We never know what the other person has been through…and thus we have no rights to judge anyone at all….beautiful!
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  27. We judge on a daily basis. Its hard not to…its something every has to work hard towards.

    Just stopping by from the A to Z Blog Challenge list. Enjoy the rest of the challenge.

  28. What a touching story! We all are guilty of being judgmental to some extent. Let us change our thinking and see he results.

  29. Superb short story. I find it very difficult to be non judgmental, especially in the world where everyone judges me by my looks, and body language. It is frustrating. Sometimes I wish I get power enough to make a start to be a better person. In this context, I loved the picture quote.
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  30. Great quote and story – Shantala. It’s so easy to jump to conclusions.
    One of my favourite quotes is “Be kind to people and don’t judge, for you do not know what demons they carry and what battles they are fighting.” – I can’t remember the source though.
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  31. It is difficult not to be judgmental in today’s times. A good story, Shantala. I guess we all need a reminder once in a while.
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  32. Stopping by from A-to-Z. What a fantastic blog! I love your well-written, heartfelt stories. Such inspiration!
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  33. That’s a very touching story. You are spot on about not judging people — everyone has their own story. We don’t know it most of the time. Just because they appear to have it together on the outside, doesn’t mean they are not in pain. Yet, as human beings, we are always so very quick to judge!
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  34. So true, Shantala. We must never judge people, we never know what they have been through. I have been very judgmental earlier but now I get past that moment to actually see how it feels for a person being under the microscope. It isn’t a very good feeling. Thanks for sharing ! 🙂
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  35. judgement comes naturally to us; our minds are quick to judge…. I love the quote of Mother Theresa, its is so true, when we judge we have no time to love… Being a counselor I have to constantly learn and keep relearning to put away all my judgemental attitudes in order to help the students who come to our centre. Being Non Judgemental is very important quality of a helper. Thanks for sharing !
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