Apr 16

Nurture Yourself. Be your own Mother. #AtoZChallenge 2015 @AprilA2Z

‘N is for Nurturing | Positive & Inspired Living A to Z’

A few weeks ago, I came across an interesting article in a magazine. It was titled ‘Becoming your Own Mother’. At first, I thought why would anyone want to be their own mother? Then I figured that this must either be about how women turn out to be like their mothers, or an article about coping techniques for the ones who have lost their moms. I was wrong on both counts. It was an article on self-nurturing. It spoke about doing the things for ourselves that is typically expected out of our mothers. It did not matter whether we had our mothers in our lives or not. This was applicable even to those who had the best moms in the world.Nurturing

The thought intrigued me. On one hand, it would be wonderful- we could be our own cheerleaders for our joys and a resourceful presence for our sorrows. On the other hand, it could be perceived as being lonely. But after giving it some thought, I believe it is essentially an act of kindness to self.

Self-nurturing does not require us to cut our self from the outside world. If we are lucky enough to have the love and support of our family and friends, that is great. In that case, one more cheerleader will not hurt, and one more figurative shoulder to lean on will only help. However, at the times when our support system cannot come to our rescue, we can be our own rock. Self nurturing does not isolate us. It simply enables us to find our happiness and peace within ourselves.

As they say – When you take care of yourself, you are one less broken soul, one more individual capable of being on the front lines ready to tend to the wounded.

What do you think? Do you agree that it is important to nurture ourselves? Do you think it helps us to nurture others?

Lots of Love


This post is written for the AtoZChallenge2015.


  1. I teally like the sound of that since my mum lives in another country. Thanks for sharing!
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  2. That such a beautiful thought Shantala! I never thought of it like that!! I guess when we nurture ourselves…we also learn to respect ourselves. Loved this one!
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  3. Yes, I agree.

    I believe that only if you can take care of yourself, you can take care of others. Self nurturing is really important as that is what makes the real you.

    Lovely post Shantala. I’m learning so much about life here 🙂
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  4. Wonderful post and a must-need especially for women. We tend to nurture our families and we are our least priorities. Thanks for the lovely suggestion 🙂

  5. Another great post 🙂 I think that we, especially women, have a tendency to put ourselves last. We really should look after ourselves more. Thanks for sharing.
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  6. Absolutely! While it is necessary to be critical of oneself, it should not be at the cost of being overly harsh. It is vital to take a pat on our own back and encourage oneself too. Great post!
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  7. Loved the lines, when you take care of yourself you are one less broken soul. Self nurturing is important, keeps you happy and content.

  8. It is very important that we nurture ourselves, take care of our needs, and love ourselves, before we do so for the world around us. Great one, Shantala!
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  9. Mother’s love is the ultimate form of unconditional love. If we can show that love for ourselves, it will be awesome, isn’t it? I liked this thought of self nurturing 🙂
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  10. Self nurturing is indeed required as long as it doesn’t become obsessive. Good one.
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  11. I feel self nurturing works well when you live away and have to fend for yourself, which I guess is now the trend as many are living and working away from home. It may sound like being lonely but nothing beats being independent and taking charge of one’s live 🙂
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  12. Totally endorse this! As an adult its our responsibility not to be dependent on others as far as possible.
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  13. Well said! Only when we honor, nurture and love our inner self, we will be able to help, heal and nurture others!!
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  14. As the airlines say: Always make sure your own mask is in place before assisting others.
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  15. Self-nuturing is important. Too many women let their own well-being go as they take care of other people. It’s good be reminded to take care of ourselves too.

  16. 100% sure that we need to care for ourselves first. If we are not grounded and balanced- how can we be there for others. Lovely read!
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  17. I think as women this is an area we often neglect. We need to nurture ourselves if we are going to nurture others. Thanks Shanaya.
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  18. I say Bravo! Especially the last quote! I got to remember that always. Just catching up on your last few posts. missed them, because you know why! 😀
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  19. Lovely post! We certainly need to look after ourselves first and foremost before we can help or look after others.
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  20. For sure Shantala! I think it is important to nurture oneself. How can you nurture another if you cannot for yourself?! 😉 <3 (And by the way, this was originally going to be my 'N' word, but glad you wrote about it.)
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  21. That was an honest post, Shanaya and it kind of helped me understand myself better. I will totally nurture myself when I feel low in the future. Nurturing oneself is very important to help overcome sorrows or celebrate joys personally. This in turn will definitely help us to help others in need.
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  22. Well said shantala ! often we have the tendency to neglect ourselves; I speak for myself, when I got married into a joint family – I spent a lot of time taking care of everyone’s need; and when it came to my own self, I found myself tired and would be the last one to eat, ensure food is not wasted and take what is left. I always thought others must be first, and we must always attend to others need. Somehow I also feel that women are trained/conditioned to believe that they are born to serve everyone in the family… its an expectation from everyone. most women live upto the expectation until they get tired and realise the need for nurturing self. I am glad to have learnt (thanks for my friends, guides, books) an still learning to respect, accept, love, forgive and nurture self.. Thanks for sharing
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  23. Well said. Self nurturing is indeed an important but difficult thing to put in practice. Many a times ppl take it as being selfish. So when it comes to looking at ourselves, ppl prefer putting themselves last. They realise this too late tht they should’ve taken care of themselves too.

  24. Well said and I can’t agree more. I know you read my I post and that was the same! Self Nurturing is important and what better than being our own mothers. Great post!
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  25. I remember reading about this too, so many of us have not had a mother who was able to nurture, my mother gave me the basics (food, water, washed and bathed me), but she was unable to give me the nurturing or playing. I am actually re-mothering myself now as a result. Great post!
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  26. Self care is so important. There are even personality archetypes who mother everyone else but need to learn to mother themselves. Great point!
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