Oct 12
2015

Perks of Marrying a Non Reader

Hello Everyone. πŸ™‚ Happy Monday! πŸ˜€

Love-of-BooksIt has been quite some time since I was here last, mostly because life got busy, and then I got out of the flow of regular posting; so much so, that my fingers felt like lead whenever I tried to type. And while it hasn’t been all THAT long, just some weeks; it felt like I haven’t written in years. SO, I decided it was time to break this unproductive downward spiral, and write this post which I have been meaning to, from a long time.

While growing up, I had always imagined marrying a reader, and in the event I happened to end up with a non-reader, I fully intended to convert him. That was the plan.

As life would have it, I married an avowed non-reader, who would rather spend his time checking Β out sci-fi movies, listening to music or even watching paint dry. He would pick anything over reading. To be fair, he does read nonfiction, but Β very rarely, and in any case, that doesn’t count (for me).

However, the original plan of converting the spouse, was never put into action. Mostly because, over the years, I have grown to enjoy the several perks that are associated with marrying a non-reader. Yes, surprisingly, there are quite a few. I have listed the top 5. Β πŸ™‚

  1. The monthly book budget is all yours, not to mention the complete monopoly over the space on the Β book shelf.
  2. Your opinions about books are always right, especially since they are the only ones around.
  3. They will never judge what you are reading, no matter what the cover looks like (Some covers may earn you amused /puzzled glances, but no judgement πŸ˜‰ ).
  4. You have one less thing to argue about. As they don’t read, you cannot have fights over things like – you hated their favorite book or they disliked a fictional character you loved.
  5. When a book is made into a movie, they cannot annoy you by pausing every 10 mins, and trying to explain the story (and the backstory), whether you want it or not. ( I may or may not do it on occasion. πŸ˜› Β If HEΒ ever makes a list, this will top it, as the most annoying thing about marrying a reader.)

But it is all good. πŸ™‚ He accepts my love for books, and besides, they are much cheaper than shoes and handbags. πŸ˜› πŸ˜‰

I would love to hear from you guys. Is your significant other a non-reader? Do you love it? Hate it? Do you have any perks to add on to this list? Or are you on the other end of this spectrum? Are you a non-reader married to a reader? What is your favorite/least-favorite part about it?

Lots of Love
Shantala

Comments

  1. My husband is a big non reader. I have never seen that man crack open a book in the whole 19 years I have known him. Shortly after we got together I bought him a biography of his favorite race car driver and he actually looked at me dumbfounded like “What the hell do you expect me to do with this?” Seriously, I don’t think he even looked through and glanced at the pictures. It is hard for me to fathom how that man survived college to earn a degree, but he did. LOL
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  2. Lata Sunil says:

    hahah.. my husband is also a dedicated non-reader. My only grouse is he thinks its money and space wasted with so many books in the house. But, I cant help it. He even got me a Kindle :). He just wants me to tell him the story after I finish reading it which I do religiously.

  3. Married to a devout reader and I must admit it is hugely satisfying. Since we have different likes, we don’t clash on anything here. Plus, shopping for books is always fun because he doesn’t mind spending on them πŸ™‚
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  4. Me too married to a non-reader – actually he’s quite like yours – he does read a lot of non-fiction but like you – that hardly counts for me. I’d actually much rather he were a reader. The pleasure of discussing books endlessly would have been something else.
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    • I know! I wish he read some fiction. It would be pretty awesome to discuss the books. Exactly the reason why I wanted to marry a reader. But I know that it is never going to happen, so I have made my peace with it, and am pretty content enjoying the above perks. πŸ˜€
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  5. Haha Shanaya. Good one ! ‘Even watching paint dry’ thats epic πŸ˜€
    My better-half is also a non-reader. He may read 100s of news articles in the newspaper or his phone which will amount to reading a short novel but wont touch a book to read. The only ones he must have read are the manuals of the gadgets he uses or the special aquatic fishes he loves. He says his grandmother and mother used to read him his chapters in school. How he passed college, God knows πŸ˜€
    So now just imagine how my son suffers when Papa dear reads him a story or recites a story from memory 😐
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  6. I was nodding my head to myself while I ran through your points. πŸ˜€
    My marriage was arranged, so I got to know my husband only after the event. I was amazed that there were people who didn’t read. Truly! how can one exist; live for that matter. Even today, I feel sorry when he gets bored surfing TV channels. BUT he will not read. We both love watching films, but reading – its mainly me at home. Both my kids are more like Papa though they have read a few books in their lifetime. πŸ˜‰
    But luckily, he’s never stopped me from reading or writing or cribbed about either activity. He was the one who introduced me to a small lending library near my new home.

  7. We are on the same page on this one. Yes, am married to a non-reader too. Since he is passionate about cooking, cookery books is all that he reads! Twice, he has bought books at the airports to pass time and both were the books which we already had at home. Imagine having 2 double books! *rolls eyes*
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  8. Can’t believe ur spouse is a non reader. The person i knew or thought i knew used to be a avid reader, fiction or non fiction. ? Being married to an avid non-fiction reader, I can tell you that not all readers are same. I definitely love the fact that he reads and specially love the fact that he reads only non fiction. Guess thats what makes our life easier when we watch movies ?. Welcome back! Was eagerly waiting for your post!!
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    • Thank you so much, Nidhi. πŸ™‚ Means a lot. πŸ™‚

      Yes, Puru used to read a lot of non-fiction, and he still does, just not as much. But like I said, that doesn’t count for me. πŸ˜› And even in non-fiction, our tastes are wildly different. Also, while I would love it if he read some fiction, so that we could discuss it; for the most part, I am okay with the current arrangement, because of the above mentioned reasons. πŸ˜€
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  9. LOL. I enjoyed that. I tend to do that to movies when they’re based on books. I married a non-reader too though he reads magazines and newspapers. He watched lots of sports on TV which gives me peaceful reading time.
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  10. My husband is not very fond of reading but he loves to purchase books related to history.
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  11. Enjoyed your post. Yes truly there are perks to marrying a non reader. My son is not an avid book reader but reading newspapers, internet articles etc he thrives on. Obviously interests differ but that what makes things interesting.
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  12. My hubby is also a non-reader. What I like least about it is that I can’t share my enthusiasm about what I’m currently reading. What I like most about it is that I can splurge on books without having to share the budget. πŸ˜‰

  13. My guy does not read either. It can be a downer, but I love Him. He stays busy helping me keep up with housework because I am reading and writing all the time.
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  14. Something similar for me too, Shantala. As a matter of fact, I just did a post on my passion for reading. πŸ™‚ My husband is not into fiction. He loves comics like Asterix, TinTin and has a formidable collection of them. He also loves non-fiction. He has 4 shelves full of his Technology books that he reads avidly. I have barely ever seen him pick up a fiction and read it completely. But, he is an avid reader otherwise. Just that his tastes are completely different from mine.
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  15. Nice post Shanaya πŸ™‚ Even my spouse is a non-reader. I completely agree with points 2 and 4. My opinions on books are considered always right and yes, no fight in that spectrum πŸ™‚
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  16. Oh I’m the reader in my house, in the sense that I read lot of fiction πŸ˜‰ …But he is always on the internet reading one article after the other..So he knows more about the world than I do…He does read non-fiction which I don’t…The book shelf is still mine and it will forever be so πŸ˜‰
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  17. I married a not-reader. I agree with your humorous reasons.

  18. I’m glad it works for you! As for me, my husband is as big a book lover as I am, and I’m grateful for that.
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  19. My hubby is also a non-reader and gets very jealous when I spend time with books πŸ™‚ But he read Take 2 in one sitting.
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  20. My hubby so much hates reading (except news papers) that I see him when googling for an information he searches the videos first.. when he gets an email longer than 2 paragraph from his boss he asks me to read it and give him a summary ?
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  21. Dear Shanaya , I am dropping via Short Stories of Vasu and Meera and Quotes page ,
    Your post made me laugh as I have harbored and still harboring the dreams of meeting ‘a book worm ‘ like me .I am a person who can survive without having food for years but cannot survive a minute without reading a book . But now I have rethink about my choices that I will be making in the coming years regarding this . πŸ™‚
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  22. I could so relate to this. My husband is a non reader. In fact if I send him a mail of more than 5 lines he would ask for summary πŸ˜‰ that last point… that is so meeee πŸ˜€
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  23. I was apprehensive about marrying a non-reader, but your post gives me hope!

    I can cross out one must-be in my future-husband-must-be list! πŸ˜›
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  24. My hubby is a reader, but unfortunately his brain is consumed by staring at a computer screen most the day. He doesn’t read nearly as much as he’d like, but at least he give me fabulous feedback on early drafts. Although he isn’t gentle. Ever. And we still love each other, so that’s something. πŸ˜‰
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  25. Interesting anecdotes and pointers. πŸ™‚
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  26. What a fabulous post and I am tempted to write about this. I also married a non-reader and gosh! He hardly knows a thing about books and it makes me feel so cool πŸ˜‰ Enjoyed reading your post! Fun one!
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  27. Tell me about it!! Hubby dearest is a non reader, my sister is a non reader, so all those points have been applicable to me, hogging the bookshelf, etc etc…since childhood!
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  28. what a delightful take on marrying someone who is just the opposite of you isn’t it? Well they say opposites attract and even though my husband is a reader, he is a non-reader as far as I am concerned because he just likes to go for facts rather than fiction. However, since he is a reader of sorts, he doesn’t resent my poking my head in a book and is quite happy to read his own book without me having to sneak peeks into or annoying him by asking him ” have you come to the part where ……?”
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  29. Your points about the advantages of being married to a non-reader are good ones. My wife doesn’t like my book collection very much and would probably be happy if I dispensed with it. Very rarely does my wife read regular books, but she reads the Bible a lot. It’s probably the best thing for her to read so I admire her for that.

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  30. My husband is dyslexic, so he doesn’t like reading much! If he does, it is non-fiction books, so yes, most of the bookshelf space is mine and I don’t have to wait for him to finish a book so that I can read it, which is how it is for my parents!!
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  31. I am so glad I hopped over to read this – so true! I didn’t quite marry a non-reader as much as a much slower and very selective reader. My Husband takes FOREVER to finish a book and i read quite fast. And our tastes in literature are pretty far apart – although we do agree on more than i realized when we met. Funny how that happened! Your list is funny and so true and gave me a much-needed smile today. So glad to “meet” you!

  32. Yes! I married a non-reader. While, I do sometimes wish that he read more so we could talk about things…it’s probably better this way. We would never talk to each other if we both loved to read!

  33. I married a non-reader, too. He reads (maybe) one book a year. But he builds me book shelves!!

  34. Hubby is a non-reader too and like you I had dreams of converting him. But I like the perks that you have mentioned. I never thought about these πŸ˜€

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