Apr 3
2015

The Power of Choice #AtoZChallenge 2015 @AprilA2Z

‘C is for Choice | Positive & Inspired Living A to Z’

The year was 2005. I was a newly minted Management Graduate. My life ahead looked pretty clear to me – I would pursue my Masters in Finance, and work in the field of Stock Research and Investment Banking. Eventually, I would marry a guy who was settled in my city, Mumbai, as I could not think about ever leaving Mumbai.

Fast forward to 2015. I have since completed my Masters in Finance, and have worked in the field of stock research for 2 years. However, in 2009, I quit my job, and moved to US with my husband – a country where I have work restrictions on my visa. I am far from the city that I loved so much and everything familiar and dear. I have given up on a career that I had always envisioned pursuing, and am now raising a toddler full time.

Choices

There were times that I wondered, how my life panned out so different from my plan? I guess, when you choose one end of the stick, you also choose the other. I chose to marry my husband, being aware of the consequences. So, it was simply a result of several such conscious choices that I made, that had my life play out the way it did.

This makes me realize how true the J.K. Rowling quote is – It is indeed our choices that show us who we are, far more than our abilities.

It is very important to understand that we are making choices all the time. Even when we choose not to choose, we have still made a choice. Unless we are willing to take full responsibility for the choices we make, we will always feel like we have no control over our lives. We have been given the power to shape our lives through our choices. If we insist on believing that outside forces are responsible for the situations in our life, we give away all the power we have.

Having said that, it is important for me to add that I do believe in destiny, but only to a certain extent. I feel that when we put a lot of stock in destiny, we undermine the power of human will, and the impact of choices in our lives.

Do you feel that our choices shape our lives? Or, do you feel that destiny plays a bigger role?

Lots of Love

Shantala

This post is written for the AtoZChallenge2015.

Comments

  1. Holy cow! Has no one posted any comments on your blog yet, or are you moderating them? If they haven’t, I should let loose the frog rain to plague everyone for NOT commenting! I love your deep thinking. ((HUGS)) That quote is so mind-digging if I do say so myself.

    It is the choices we make that shapes our lives, destiny is not preset because every human being has the gift of free will and nothing is locked in place–unless it is God’s will.

    Guess what? I, too, am raising an adorable toddler full time along with adorable teenagers and one feisty yet adorable 9 year old. Boy, I wish time didn’t flee! 🙁

    Elizabeth Mueller
    AtoZ 2015
    My Little Pony

    • Thank you so much for your kind words, Elizabeth. It means a lot to me. 🙂 I am so glad that you enjoyed the post. Good to have connected with you through AtoZ. I am totally enjoying your theme for AtoZ. I look forward to guessing the names of the ponies and in the process am learning the most unique names for flowers. 🙂
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  2. I love to believe that everything that happens is a consequence of our choice. Sure, destiny has its role but even though, wasn’t it our choice in the first place to become who we are? Nice post Shantala 🙂
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  3. Shantala, I believe that everything happens for a reason. I know you have a great husband. And I’m sure a wonderful child. I can tell you’re grateful for everything you have. And more good things will come your way.

    Mee (The Chinese Quest)
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  4. I loved your post Shantala and I do believe in the choices we make. At the same time, I believe that it is destined that we will make certain choices in life. When I was growing up, I never wanted to go to Delhi. But I studied there and spent 4 years of my life. In those times – same as what you mentioned, 2005 – being in North was India. I never thought life would take me to Bangalore. It’s 10 years now and I cannot imagine living in any other city. And those were just a few choices..There were so many more 🙂
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  5. ah yes! By ability i may be a superhero but by choice I’m a sidekick
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  6. Choices.. choices everywhere .. but which is the right one? I have been on the other side actually.. Let choices define me. Many times, I couldnt get what I had chosen and worked for. I would then follow whatever had been chosen for me and just hoped its a better choice than what I wanted.
    Good post.

  7. Apt “choice” for C. 😉 See what I did there?

    After 8 years of hard work and reaching a senior level, I quit my IT job 2 years ago to focus on motherhood. It wasn’t an easy choice but once taken it has been the best decision so far. 🙂

    I believe in both personal choices and destiny. I feel they go hand-in-hand but never overshadow each other for long.
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  8. Nice piece for introspection.will keep coming back for more of #atozchallenge

  9. I believe it is the choices we make that shapes our lives, when I believe this then I shall take responsibilty of my thoughts, feelings and behaviours… otherwise I may attribute everything to destiny.. despite circumstances and situations, we still have a choice, the freedom to choose… thanks for sharing..

  10. I believe that destiny and choice work together. That which is destined is bound to occur, how we react to that destiny or the choices we make along the way is of course entirely ours.
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  11. I believe, we truly are the choices we make but in away we are destined to make those choices too. I mean whatever happens, it happens for a reason and it is all written in our destiny!
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  12. Our choices are responsible for the person we are today- the good, the bad and the ugly. When we make a choice, I think we are sealing our destinies 🙂
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  13. I too think that it is our choices that shape our lives, thanks for sharing your thoughts on the subject!
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  14. Sulekha says:

    We make choices but why we make them is another discussion altogether. There is that saying, ‘Man proposes, God disposes.’ Enjoy your toddler, he will grow up too soon and move away from home to study and work. Best wishes

  15. Prasanna says:

    Do our choices make our destiny or does our destiny make us choose? Who knows? Yes, my life too has shaped differently than what I had imagined a few years back. I gave up my career of 8 years to be at home and give some time for my daughter. I love the HP quote 🙂

  16. I am a big believer in choice. As you rightly said, even not making a decision is a choice. And that will lead us to a particular path. I sometimes reflect on my life and the choices I have made — I don’t think our choices are good or bad — they just are. They take us on this journey called life and teach us lessons along the way. If we hadn’t taken one step, we probably wouldn’t have met people we now know and love, situations we’ve learnt from and well, wouldn’t be who we are!
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  17. Indeed our choices decide where life would take us. No second thoughts about that! Here’s my views about choices I wrote long back: https://nibhz.wordpress.com/2014/04/30/zillion-choices/
    and
    https://nibhz.wordpress.com/2015/01/17/too-many-choices-or-just-one/
    Nibha recently posted…CagedMy Profile

  18. Hi Shantala, Great post that sets one thinking. I think a little bit of both- choices and destiny determine what happens in ones life.
    I am more inclined to say that destiny / fate or forces that are out of our control heavily influence the choices we make.

  19. I feel that life’s flow guides our direction. I feel that we cannot miss an opportunity or experience we are meant to be experiencing. I feel the more we embrace the moment the more our choices come from a place of balance and more harmonious place. We will learn and gain what we came to receive in this life no matter what path we take, life guides us. I have lost count of the amount of times my life has guided me in unexpected ways and my ‘will’ would have taken me down a path that would not have been for my benefit. I don’t so much believe in destiny, but I feel the more we embrace what life gives us with open arms we are in the stream of life and we are directed by our inner choices that may not be what our ego may had in store.
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  20. I can relate so much with your posts gal.. the choices.. perspectives.. life..! You’re simply terrific..!!
    Keep it up!

    Cheers
    Geets recently posted…C-CoffinMy Profile

  21. Dear Shantala, You’ve touched my heart with this post. Your honesty. Destiny is what we are here to play out. Destiny is the life that we scripted for ourselves before we began this journey on Earth. Choices are a result of our ‘free will’ that we make – again some that are part of our destiny – in order to gain the experience that will complete us.
    There is no right and wrong, when it comes to choices. Only later on in life, will it be clear to you why your dream of being a finance professional didn’t work out and then you will also realize it was for a reason – and a good one at that.
    Cheers… You definitely won me over. coming back here again.

    • Thank you so much for your kind words, Nisha. Your comment made my day. 🙂 Looking back, I realize that it was never my dream to be a finance professional, but it certainly was something I had always envisioned pursuing. But life took a different course. Nonetheless, I don’t regret it one bit. I am married to the best guy in the whole world and have an adorable toddler who makes every single day a joy. 🙂
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  22. I love what JK Rowling and the Harry Potter books have to say about choice. It’s so…thought provoking and powerful.

    Good luck with the 2015 A to Z Challenge!
    A to Z Co-Host S. L. Hennessy
    http://pensuasion.blogspot.com

  23. i agree with dumbledore 😀 its the choices we make 🙂 gr8 post indeed 🙂 thank you for sharing 🙂

  24. I like what Nisha has to say above. Ultimately I think that as well as that our choices determine our destiny. 🙂 <3
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  25. Our choices does shape our lives! I chose to marry and Army officer, knowing clearly well that he would be posted at some godamn place where there would be no IT companies or even proper house to stay in. I knew I will have to leave my job at some point of time if I need a happy marriage with him. 🙂 My choice! I don’t regret either! great write, Shantala!
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  26. I have always loved the Harry Potter quote you included. And yes, I firmly believe that our choices shape us. I believe in Karma, so each choice has its consequence.

  27. My 49 years on this planet have taught me that the truth is perhaps beyond both human will and destiny, though both these things do play their role in determining our life journey. Enjoy the ride, and keep an open mind and heart for all that is to come 🙂

  28. Shananya, it is an accepted fact that it is destiny which is supreme. We may propose something, but it is destiny which controls our actions. Very nicely written.

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