The year was 2005. I was a newly minted Management Graduate. My life ahead looked pretty clear to me – I would pursue my Masters in Finance, and work in the field of Stock Research and Investment Banking. Eventually, I would marry a guy who was settled in my city, Mumbai, as I could not think about ever leaving Mumbai.
Fast forward to 2015. I have since completed my Masters in Finance, and have worked in the field of stock research for 2 years. However, in 2009, I quit my job, and moved to US with my husband – a country where I have work restrictions on my visa. I am far from the city that I loved so much and everything familiar and dear. I have given up on a career that I had always envisioned pursuing, and am now raising a toddler full time.
There were times that I wondered, how my life panned out so different from my plan? I guess, when you choose one end of the stick, you also choose the other. I chose to marry my husband, being aware of the consequences. So, it was simply a result of several such conscious choices that I made, that had my life play out the way it did.
This makes me realize how true the J.K. Rowling quote is – It is indeed our choices that show us who we are, far more than our abilities.
It is very important to understand that we are making choices all the time. Even when we choose not to choose, we have still made a choice. Unless we are willing to take full responsibility for the choices we make, we will always feel like we have no control over our lives. We have been given the power to shape our lives through our choices. If we insist on believing that outside forces are responsible for the situations in our life, we give away all the power we have.
Having said that, it is important for me to add that I do believe in destiny, but only to a certain extent. I feel that when we put a lot of stock in destiny, we undermine the power of human will, and the impact of choices in our lives.
Do you feel that our choices shape our lives? Or, do you feel that destiny plays a bigger role?
*This post is written for the AtoZChallenge.
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