It is said that the best gift you can give anyone, is your unconditional love and acceptance. This is especially true for healthy relationships- unconditional acceptance of your partner’s belief’s, attitudes and behaviors is important.
Having said that, it is also true that unconditional acceptance is something that we all want, but we rarely give out. It is easier said than done. But, it can be learnt, and it is something that the people in our lives totally deserve.
I am not a relationship expert, by any means. These are just the things that I have learnt in the past few years from experience, hindsight and SEVERAL mistakes.
1. Get rid of Unrealistic Expectations: It is okay to expect. You will need to attain a certain level of Nirvana, to be free of expectations. The problem is with the unrealistic variety. The kind that romantic novels and movies fill in your brain. For e.g. He may not always know the right thing to say, coz lets face it, he is not Ryan Reynolds, who is reading a script full of sweet, romantic quotes. He may not surprise you with flowers or chocolates, but he might choose to do the dishes without you having to ask, or he might even let you finish his tandoori chicken. 😛 The point isn’t WHAT he’s doing, it’s the thought behind it.
2. Love More, Judge Less: Like they say, counting other people’s sins, does not make you a saint. When we judge, we form a rigid opinion about someone, which makes it difficult to accept them for who they are.
3. Agree to Disagree: This will make it easier for you to accept your partner’s views, even when you might not agree with them. It is imperative to understand that everyone has a unique emotional outlook, and that many a times, there is no absolute right or wrong. It is just a matter of perception and perspective.
True love exists. Perfect Relationships do not. Which means, while true unconditional love is possible, perfection is not. So, let’s strive for what is possible – which is loving and accepting the people in our lives, unconditionally.
How about we all try and do one thing today, that shows the people in our lives how special and loved they are? What would be that one thing for you? What gesture makes you feel unconditionally loved and accepted? Words of appreciation? Last piece of brownie? 😉
*This post is written for the AtoZChallenge.
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