Before I even get into what I want to talk about today, I just want to mention, that this is not something I am really comfortable sharing/writing about, or even acknowledging to myself, to be honest. But I am doing this anyway, because I feel like there might be others struggling through something similar, and me speaking up might help them work through it.
Because that’s basically what helped me. I was in denial when I came across a YouTube video where the girl was speaking about how she dealt with a particular situation, which was all too familiar to me (on a much smaller level though). And even though I wasn’t familiar with that Youtuber at all (before I watched this video), her expressing her thoughts and concerns so plainly, struck a chord with me, urged me to confront the reality of my situation, and eventually helped me break out of this funk I had gotten into.
So that’s one of the main reasons why I want to write about this, and share it, in hopes that it might help someone else. However, before that, consider this fair warning – this post might get a little ramble-y at times, as I am going to treat this as a free-write exercise (something I NEVER do). Because here is the thing, I know that if I stop to review or edit this post, I will most likely lose my nerve and talk myself into trashing it altogether.
Okay, so now that all that’s out of the way, let me get into what actually happened.
So if you have been following my blog for a while now, you know that sometime last year I started posting my Quarterly Goals on my blog on a regular basis. For the uninitiated, here is what it essentially entailed – at the beginning of every quarter, I used to list down my goals for the upcoming quarter (publicly, on the blog), across several areas of my life – work goals/home projects/blogging milestones/fitness plans/reading goals – basically anything and everything that I wanted to focus on and work towards in that quarter.
At the end of the quarter, I used to review those goals (again, publicly), rate my performance, make course corrections, and then set fresh goals for the new quarter. Of-course some of the goals that couldn’t get accomplished in the previous quarter got carried over too, especially if they were important.
Quarterly Goals: The Origin Story
In-fact some goals got carried over from quarter to quarter so religiously that they could claim permanent residency there. *cough* digital photo/video organization *cough* But I digress.
A detailed explanation/summary of the Quarterly Goals series is not the point of this post (but I hope it will give you some context). I am actually writing this post to explain why I suddenly stopped posting the goals and the updates on my blog.
However, for that let’s back up a bit, to the last quarterly goals post I shared – my goals for the second quarter of the year. To be honest, that one was a pretty typical quarterly goals post, with the exception of the fact that it was a little late, and so I was working with a limited time-frame. But outside of that, there was nothing in there to attract any undue attention (or so I thought).
But as soon as I shared that post, I got some unexpected feedback from a few people (3 specifically) whom I never even thought read my blog posts. Because these were people I knew in my real life (as in, they weren’t virtual friends or fellow bloggers) who never commented or even indicated in any way that they knew about the existence of my blog (even though I share my blog posts on all my social media profiles pretty regularly), much less read it. But clearly they did, and apparently from a long time (considering their opinionated insights).
So anyway, they said a lot of things, all in the guise of good free advice, that they felt will help me, and specifically addressed the Quarterly Goals posts I wrote (not any one in particular, but the series in general). But here is basically what it boiled down to – they were analyzing my life, and giving me free advice on how to manage it better.
Speaking more specifically about this supposedly well intentioned advice – they felt some of my goals were too ambitious, and I was intentionally setting myself up for failure, and also that I was pointlessly carrying forward some goals that they just knew (?!) I will never get to.
And then they also had an opinion about how I was prioritizing these goals, which clearly wasn’t good enough for them. Yes you read that right. My personal goals weren’t good enough for them.
But here is the real kicker (and their biggest grouse) – they felt my Quarterly Goals were too selfish. Too centered around me, and not nearly enough around my family, and especially my child, who (according to them) should have featured more in these goals.
Honestly, when I first heard them, I did not know where to even start responding to them. I mean, yes my quarterly goals might be too ambitious at times (and not prioritized perfectly, whatever that looks like), but that’s just me and how I operate. I set stretch goals all the time, because I am an eternal optimist, and I also work better under pressure.
Does that mean I will fail at some of them? Of-course I will. I mean this is real life. I am not listing down some perfectly curated, completely balanced, perfectly prioritized goals that will look good to others, or for that matter things that are super easily achievable, only to get the satisfaction of checking off all those goal boxes, and neatly tying the ribbon on the quarter once it ends.
I don’t even know why anyone at all would ever do that, because it would be such a pointless exercise. I personally cannot ever imagine setting goals for pleasing others and looking good (to them).
No. I am here sharing my real goals, which inevitably means, I will be slacking in some areas, sometimes constantly, overachieving in others, and failing some miserably at times too.
Oh and I don’t even know where to begin with the comment that my goals are selfish. Hello, they are my goals, so of-course they are centered around me and my life. Moreover, these quarterly goals of mine are simply some select focus areas for personal development, NOT my entire life’s agenda. So of-course not every single component of my life will be on there. And that’s totally intentional. I choose to keep some things private. Is that a crime?
Honestly, people can be so ridiculous at times!
And here is the thing, while admittedly I am not amazing at it, I can handle criticism. In-fact so long as it is constructive, and comes from a good place, I welcome feedback. There have been many times I have actively sought it, in several areas – like blog design, images, even book reviews.
But critiquing someone’s life choices is different, no? And I am aware of the argument that if you put anything on the internet, this is to be expected. But I would like to disagree. Yes, I chose to share one part of my life, in hopes that it will help keep me accountable, while hopefully benefiting someone else as well. But it was never meant as a free-for-all to come and critique my life.
Honestly some people need a crash course (or actually a more detailed, thorough one) in Boundaries & Respect 101!
Anyway, having said all that – even though I felt righteously annoyed by these people, and raged and ranted about them, mostly in my own head – I did not really mention anything about this to anyone, and instead chose to completely ignore the whole episode. Or that’s what I intended to do at any rate.
But ironically, come end of the quarter, when it was time to write the Quarterly Goals update post, I found reasons to procrastinate. Of-course at the time, I did not think of it this way. But looking back that is exactly what I was doing – not confronting the fact that I was somehow not able to write this particular post.
And it wasn’t just that one post that I wasn’t able to write. I found reasons to procrastinate some of the other posts I wrote on a regular basis, like my post for my monthly link up – Chatty Blogs, and even the monthly round up/gratitude posts.
And all of these posts had one thing in common – they were all more chatty, more personal posts, where I shared more of my life beyond books.
Of-course none of it was intentional. I did not plan to phase out the personal posts. I was still in denial about the criticism even affecting me, remember?
Moreover, this was also the time I was getting my food blog (The Love of Spice) off the ground, so I had a strong excuse to not be present as much on Shanaya Tales.
But did I stop posting here? No. I found the time to keep the blog active, albeit at a more laid-back pace, but all the posts I wrote here revolved around the books I read (sharing book reviews or curated book recommendations) and nothing beyond them.
A whole quarter passed in this manner, me finding reasons to procrastinate the personal posts, due to “lack of time”. And then I saw that video, which forced me to confront and accept the reality of my situation, even though I did not like it one bit.
Because here is the thing, it’s not easy for me to admit this (to myself or all of you). That I let some random people, who clearly did not know what they were even talking about, affect me so much. Even though I knew better. I knew their opinions were beyond ridiculous and clearly out of line. And yet.
I think sometimes things affect us far more than what we are willing to admit even to ourselves. But I know that even though we might stumble on these roadblocks, we can’t let them stop our progress. We simply have to find a way to move on, and the first step in that journey is to NOT live in denial, and acknowledge/address the problem.
I think that’s the most difficult, yet crucial step, because once I did that, it was like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. No, nothing changed just by me acknowledging the problem, but it made me feel more in control of the situation, and dramatically improved my attitude towards it.
I also knew that it was time to act, and act fast, before I started second guessing the whole thing, and so I decided to bring back the series from the dead (or rather, the disappeared) by writing an update post after ages (not published yet, will go up next). But first I thought I owed you guys an explanation, so this post is basically that explanation.
I don’t know if you even needed one, or if this ramble-y rant made any sense to you, but just writing this all out, has been a cathartic experience for me, and for that alone, I don’t regret writing/sharing this.
That’s all from my end folks. If you have reached this point, after reading the entire ramble/rant, I just want to say, thank you! Thank you for reading, and hearing me out.
PIN THIS!
Hey shanaya, just read this post. It’s your blog, your own space. And your goal setting whether ambitious or doable is your own choice and business, I don’t think it’s appropriate for anyone to point finger. You are a mature responsible and sensible person and you know what you are doing. People who know you shoukd know that. Well then there are all kinds of people in this world. Just ignore and do what you feel is right for you. Good luck to you dear. Hope those people come to realize what they have done and mend their ways.
Thank you so much for this, Vinitha. I really needed to hear this. The goals were never a vanity metric, so of-course I could only do what I could do, and had to let go of the rest. However I did wonder at times how it came across to others when I kept failing at so many of them. Which is why when I got those comments, it made me second guess something I was already unsure about. So thank you so much for sharing your thoughts today. And all the support. I truly appreciate it. And thanks for always being there for me. Hugs.
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Oh dear! People do have many pieces of advice and opinions about how someone else should live and now, set goals! I don’t understand how they could tell you what goals YOU should set for YOURSELF! Honestly Shantala, I love reading your quarterly goals. And I love reading the report at the end of the quarter. Your goals which range from different quarters of your life makes it more realistic and interesting. And I was relieved to see that some goals are only half achieved or so. Because that makes you human. You, a perfectionist and a goal-oriented person, through these posts, were telling me that it’s okay if I couldn’t achieve all my goals because all of us go through just that. I admire your tenacity and enthusiasm in setting goals and following them through and most of all, sharing them with us without any reservations. I’m glad you wrote this post. We like you just the way you are. Keep writing, Shantala. <3
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Hugs to you!! I totally understand where you are coming from. This is exactly why I removed all my personal rant-y posts from my blog a while ago. And I stopped posting non blog stuff on FB as well. All because of intrusive real life friends. Sigh I wish it were not a big deal, but it is.
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Exactly. I did not want it to be a big deal. But it still was a pretty big deal. Sigh.
Anyway there is no real cure for intrusive folks who simply cannot stick to minding their own business. We just need to work on developing a thicker skin, and caring less.
Thank you for reading, and hearing me out. Hugs.
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I am glad you did this post Shantala. I think a lot of us will identify with it. The thing is, no matter what we tell ourselves, what people around us say matters. I know it does to me even if those people don’t much count, even if I know we’re not on the same page and even if I know in my heart that I’m doing the right thing on my blog. That was one reason I loved the anonymity of my blog, I liked that people knew only the parts of my life that I chose to share with them. Once the anonymity wears away, as is inevitable, and people begin to think they know you, they think they have the right to judge and comment on how you’re leading your life (the blog-life, I mean). And that’s just silly. Let me reinforce what you’ve realised already – they don’t matter. Also, I think reaching out one-on-one to a virtual friend/blogger friend or a close real-world friend would help. As I write this I know I need to take my own advice too so a big thank you to you for helping me see this.
Yeah, I believe we all struggle with this at some point, and in one way or another. And it doesn’t matter how much we try and rationalize the situation in our heads, our hearts don’t always follow the rational agenda. I am glad the post helped you in some way too.
And thank you for always being there, Tulika. Hugs.
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A big big hugs Shantala – some peeps just dont know where to draw the line and assume that just becuase you have talked about stufff on social media, you are open to brickbats from everyone.
I stopped posting my happy pics on FB a while back; infact most of my holidays- I dont take any pic of me. I had started earning the reputation of being a part girl who is just vicariously enjoying her life while her poor parents are all alone!!!! Yup thats the feedback I was getting thanks to my FB feed.
I have gone off FB in a whole lot of ways and am there sporadiclaly or mainly for my blog.
God damn it !! It hurts when random people introspect your life *(based on your SM sharings) and then proceed to tell you exactly what you are doing wrong!!
Crash course – no – degree course in Respecting Boundaries 101!!!!!!!
I too fumed and ranted and………………………….I wanted to delete my FB account or just un friend all these folks!!! Then common sense prevailed and I decided to breathe and just assess this better.
Now I am not on FB as much as I used to be; deleted it from the phone as well. Its a SM that I am getting out of my system for good.
I am glad you decided to bring your series back- your aim was to motivate yourself and keep assessing your goals- thats exactly what you are going to do; regardless of these brainiacs who have nothing better to do than meddle in others lives. They probably dont have as fulfilling a life as yours nor are they that motivated to do something about it.
I agree with Shailja’s assessment – find a blogger/friend who lets you confide without blabbig about it or being judgemental. Once in a while we all need to run such thoughts about our blogging with someone who seems to be doing so much better than us. I get this feeling all the time.
When I had self hosting troubles- last year and this – I just reached out on the BAR group and boy I was overwhelmed by the good wishes, advice and even contact details of other peeps blog hosts. I was totally not expecting this kind of support and let me tell you it felt awesome!!!
We all doubt ourselves; second guessing what we are doing- its ok to do that! Just dont lose sight of why you set out to do somthing – you have some great stuff going on Shanaya Tales and I am missing it all.
Get out there Gurl!!!
Oh my God! I can’t believe these people! Why would anyone judge someone based on their FB feed?! I wonder if these people’s lives are reflected 100% on their FB profile. Because why else would they assume that they can judge someone’s life choices based on their Facebook account. People are ridiculous, I tell you. And common sense is in short supply more than ever!
Thank you for hearing me out, and for all the love and support, Shalz. Means a lot.
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It’s so frustrating when people decide they can offer advice that isn’t asked for. I can totally understand it affecting your blogging because these things do play on the mind even when you can take criticism. No one has the right to tell you how to live your life. I am glad you will be writing your quarterly goals post! Looking forward to it.
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Thank you so much, Sanch. I am planning to revive the series soon.
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Oh, it’s really odd. Some people are strange. ‘How does it matter to them?’ — this is what I was thinking when reading this post. There’s a difference between offering suggestions and judging your life/lifestyle. Clearly, some people do not understand this.
We list our goals but that’s not an official statement. It’s OK if we miss it. We will try again.
It’s sad but don’t be bothered, I’d say. Write what you feel. Do what helps you. Keep blogging. Best wishes always.
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I know, right? Unfortunately most people simply don’t understand the concept of boundaries.
Thank you for all the support, Tarang. Means a lot.
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First of all, I’m so proud of you for not succumbing to their thoughts and bringing the series back. Lots of love for that!
Now, let me tell you something. Everyone from my family reads my blog, yes, everyone. They apparently even take printouts and share it among themselves. Nothing bad about it, you say? Well, here’s the clincher. Not one of them have mentioned to me that they read my work. Not once has it been said that I write well or have a good imagination. But, ALL of them sit and dissect my posts and call/visit each other claiming that I’m speaking about them in the post. Next, they call my parents or my in-laws and complain about it. They in turn call me for an explanation. That’s when I realized that they read my blog. I’ve written contest winning posts and most of my posts have been good, if not great and yet no one calls my parents or in-laws to say that I’ve been doing a good job. Yes, this is my wonderful family.
The reason I’m telling you this is, people only want to look for the negative in others life and harp upon it. Even if there is nothing out there, they will find one point, concoct it into something else and make a big deal out of it. Listening to them should be the last thing that you need to do. If one cannot appreciate you for the good, the last thing they need to do is criticize.
I know it is hard to not be upset over it. It does affect your mental space immensely, but you need to look at it like barking dogs and move on. I was contemplating on deleting my blog roughly around 5 years ago because of the scenes that were being created in the family, but I did not. I still talk about what I want to and scenes are still being created, but I’ve now mastered the act of blocking it all out. That’s the best thing to do when it comes to freedom of expression.
Do want you want to, Shantala. Your quarterly goals and results have inspired many people like me and will continue to do so. The last thing we must do is to give in to people who hardly matter to us.
Love and power to you! <3
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Soumya, I don’t know what to say. I am shocked beyond words, that someone will be jobless enough, and evil enough to do that. I fail to understand what could possibly possess such people to do something like this. How much hate and envy they must carry in their hearts to willingly target someone in this manner.
It’s unfortunate that they can’t value someone like you in their lives. Their loss. Because even though I know you only through your blog, over all these years of reading your posts, I feel like I have gotten a good glimpse into the kind of person you are. And if they can’t value the presence of someone as amazing as you in their life, they don’t deserve you at all.
Thank you for all the love, support, and encouragement. Hugs.
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Hey don’t be so hard on yourself. All those who give free advice should be disregarded – if you wanted advice you’d have asked and PAID for it . And of course your goals are centred wound you ! Are your naysayers goals centred round other people ?
Let me tell you that you son will be the first person to tell you Taj t you shouldn’t have ‘wasted’ your life cantering it around Nd him !!!!
And remember the airline instructions to put your own Oxygen mask before helping others more specifically your children.
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I completely agree. Like they say, we can never pour from an empty cup. I knew that, and yet I let them get to me. Sigh.
Thank you for your kind words, and all the love and support. Hugs.
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HUgs Shantala. Much as I may say that we must do what makes one happy, trust me, I understand how it must have felt when we come across such comments. And its good you ranted it here. Most of us identify with this situation. I end up sulking when people comment without trying to have an empathy, understanding, or respect. And as you have said, we still need to keep going, keep blogging. Lets not let such words bog us down na…
Keep smiling, writing and sending you loads of positive Vibes from my side :))
Oh I sulked too. At first in private, then I went into denial mode, and then I sulked some more. But I am definitely over it now, and sharing this finally feels very cathartic. Here’s to moving onwards and upwards! Thank you for all the love and support. Hugs.
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Shantala, firstly let me say that it is pretty brave of you to have shared any kind of personal stuff on your blog and secondly share the post with people who might judge you based on what they read and interpret. I have tried to steer clear of writing personal posts because I am too touchy about reactions and judgments.I have also stopped sharing my posts, even fiction or humor with people who don’t have imagination, they think everything I write is based on personal experiences and episodes! I am glad you shared your dilemma over this post. It must feel cathartic! Maybe you need to stand back from the whole concept of quarterly goals for a bit and think back to what motivated you to do it first and analyse whether it served the purpose. At the end you are answerable only to yourself and no one else. You happy then the rest of the world can say or do whatever, who cares! Love and hugs dear!
I used to think I am not touchy at all, and that I have grown a pretty thick skin over time, but apparently not. I have given this matter some thought, and I know this series on the blog definitely helps me stay accountable and on track with my goals. Which is the main reason why I am bringing it back.
But I need some distance, so I am going to take this quarter off and start afresh in the new year. Start afresh sharing the goals I mean, not setting and tracking them – that I do no matter what, because I simply don’t know how to function any other way. I know I am weird, lol.
Thank you for all the love and support, Kala. Hugs.
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This post kept me nodding and the below paragraph actually got me hitting…
“But here is the real kicker (and their biggest grouse) – they felt my Quarterly Goals were too selfish. Too centered around me, and not nearly enough around my family, and especially my child, who (according to them) should have featured more in these goals.”
Believe me, I have got those looks if not comments on not shouting out loud about how much I do for my kids. An example being I forgot the fancy name of my younger one’s pre-nursery class once while attending an event! But we are humans and we tend to forget very basic things at times for a second. I cannot forget the looks of receptionist and her reaction when she confirmed the same just by asking my child’s name.
Anyways.. you got the point right about prioritizing your life your way. Kudos and good luck.. 🙂
People can be ridiculous sometimes, with zero common sense, and no concept of empathy. Sigh.
Thank you for reading, and reaching out. 🙂
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Your life! Your goals! Your blog! So, I’d ask you to say to them, bring it on! Do whatever you want to do, Shantala. Forget about such people who bring so much negativity and toxicity into your life. I know, it is difficult because I also take matters like these to my heart. I, for one, love your personal posts and I’ve always been in awe of your goal posts. It makes you accountable for your ambitions and oh come on, your quarterly blog posts revolved around your blog, mostly. It was not about family goals which would’ve been more personal. Anyway, think about it, Shantala. We are all here for you. Tight hugs and lots of love <3
What can I say, except that people are ridiculous, and some of them have way too much time on their hands, and very little common sense in their brains. Sigh.
Thank you for always being there, Shalini. I truly appreciate it. Loads and loads of virtual hugs back to you.
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Shantala, dont be bothered about a few people who claim to know you. Pls continue as you are. You are writing for yourself and the audience is the world. Otherwise, you will never be able to write what you want.
I agree. I am going to do just that. I have blocked 2 of them, and un-followed all of them. I really don’t need that kind of negativity in my life.
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I have experienced this in the past too and that’s why I am not comfortable sharing my blog link with anyone who knows me in real life. I chose this random name for the very same reason and had to change my blog url multiple times too, when people had accidentally discovered my blog and started giving me gyaan. Don’t care about such comments. You write what you want.
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Yeah, I am planning to do just that. If they feel there is no better use of their time than analyzing my life, then so be it. But I am done bothering about their thoughts and opinions.
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You know, Shantala. Your post spoke much more to me than I realized. I have stopped doing the gratitude posts since 3 months and I was just writing a post about why I did that.
Like you said, no matter what we may think, it affects us – – the unsolicited feedback. That it came from people you knew in your real life makes it even more incredulous. It is commendable that you put what you were feeling out here. It feels cathartic, right?
Like Shailaja mentioned, find a person/blogger you can ping and vent to. It helps a lot. Sometimes it is only us who understand the unique problems that come with blogging.
Of course, I would say go with what you want to do. But that said if you wish to hold back or hold back for some time, that is okay as well. The only person who has a right to judge what you write is you. I know you put your all into your writing and I, for one, love reading your posts especially the rambly ones. ?
Here’s a warm virtual hug coming your way.
Thank you so much, Rachna. It does feel cathartic, in more ways than one.
And I read the post you mentioned here, and found myself nodding along. Sometimes we have to introspect, and really evaluate what we do, and why we do those things. I know we start most things from a positive place. But it’s not necessary that all of those things continue to help us. And at that point, it no longer makes sense to continue doing those things just to maintain the status quo.
Thank you for always being there. Loads and loads of virtual hugs back to you.
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First, big hugs. And I totally get where you’re coming from. It can’t be easy to say this out loud especially given that so much of our lives are on the blog that people automatically assume it’s okay to express their unkind opinions about what we say or don’t say.
Second, I’m glad you’re bringing it back. You should. More because it makes you happy and not out of a sense of being avenged or whatever.
Third and this is important, find a confidant to whom you can vent about situations like this, either in the blogging world or off it. Because as bloggers the journey is quite lonely, no matter how many comments we get or how much empathy we receive. A good heart to heart fixes the problems of self doubt and second guessing ourselves. I realised this a while ago, just before I wrote that post about solopreneur challenges actually. It was kind of born out of the self pity I felt post my illness and how only two people reached out to check in on me.
That was my YouTube moment, you could say. So now I do what I want, what makes me happy, what makes my readers happy and my subscribers happy. Because ultimately, that’s what matters. 🙂
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I read that post of yours, and couldn’t agree more with everything you said. Every now and then it’s important to reflect on the things that are truly important to us, and let go of the weight of expectations that drag us down.
Thank you so much for always being there for me, Shy. I want you to know that I don’t ever take that for granted. Hugs.
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